Monthly Archives: February 2013

Motivation Mistakes: How your motivation for getting healthy may be setting you up to fail

We all have motivation for why we want to lose weight or have salubrious eating habits. But some of our reasons can set us up to fail. Here are three motivation mistakes that can harm us more than they help us.

Motivation mistake #1: The event motivation
” I have to look cute because my girlfriends and I have a trip planned for the beach in 3 months”
” Oh my goodness! I didn’t realize that my class reunion is in 2 months. I have to get back to my freshman year shape!”

Why this doesn’t work:
Lets say that you meet your goal just in time for the big event. Great! Everybody sees you and complements you.

Now what?

You now have no other motivation to maintain the salubrious life. You have more reasons to go back to the sedentary lifestyle because there is no huge event to look forward to.
Let’s say your life is full of events. Good for you, socialite! Your life is full of binge eating and binge dieting just to get a compliment from someone at one of these events.

Then one day nobody compliments you. “What have I been dieting for?” “Am I not thin enough?” “Am I ugly?”
Losing weight to fish for compliments at big events means that you rely on people to feel good about yourself. This leads me to motivation mistake #2.

Motivation mistake #2: Person motivation

“I have to get skinny so that Johnny will like me.”
“They will all start talking about me if it appears that I’ve gained weight.”

First of all, if you are losing weight to gain compliments from other people, then you will never be satisfied. People can admire physical features but won’t want to interact with a person because of a nasty attitude or lack of personality. True beauty comes from within. I don’t care how beautiful Naomi Campbell is. All I can think about is her nasty attitude and how she threw her cell phone at someone a while back. Therefore, just because a person likes your physical attributes doesn’t mean that they like YOU!

Motivation mistake #3: Twiggy motivation

“I want to look just like the skinny model on the commercial. I’ll be in good shape if I look like her.”

Some women that we see in the media are excellent examples of what a salubrious lifestyle looks like. Others are a manufactured image that doesn’t reflect realistic body types. Just because they appear to be in shape (based on society’s definition of beauty) doesn’t mean they’ve obtained that body with a salubrious lifestyle. According to an article in Teen Vogue, some models are anorexic or use diuretic pills to dramatically lose weight. These dangerous weight loss methods have terrible consequences for your health. Remember, salubrity is not just about appearance. If your insides are suffering, eventually your body will tell on you ( bad skin, rotten teeth, loss of menstrual period, hair loss, yellowing eyes).

Additionally, if you’re trying to lose weight to look like the people on television, you will change your appearance for your entire life. Standards of beauty change. Doubtful? Look at what your parents or grandparents called beautiful when they were your age. Don’t put yourself on the never ending hamster wheel.

THE PERFECT MOTIVATION… is a lifestyle change.
All the motivation mistakes have one thing in common. They are temporary.
Events, men/women, and standards of beauty come and go. Making lifestyle changes will help you keep weight off and live a completely salubrious life.
When you make a decision to “just be a healthy YOU”, there is an elimination of external pressures. You move at your own pace, with healthy expectations for yourself and nobody else. You may not lose weight as fast, but taking time to realize what needs to be adjusted makes a salubrious lifestyle easier to maintain when you encounter temptations down the road.

How does one make a lifestyle change? Stay tuned for my next blog post!


Why don’t some people wash their hands after using the bathroom?!?


A trip to the restroom should be simple.

Step one: Relieve yourself.

Step Two: Wash your hands with soap and warm water.

But for a lot of people a trip to the restroom only contains step one. When I witness that someone doesn’t wash their hands, I cringe as I think of all the things they will infect next and how I’m going to touch the door handle without touching their urine and excrement bacteria. 

Hand-washing is the most basic technique to prevent against infection.

The Center for Disease Control recommends that you wash your hands with warm water and soap (for 20 seconds or sing “The Birthday song”) after doing the following activities:

  • “Before, during and after preparing food
  • Before eating food
  • Before and after caring for someone who is sick
  • Before and after treating a cut or wound
  • After using the toilet
  • After changing diapers or cleaning up a child who has used a toilet
  • After blowing your nose, coughing, or sneezing
  • After touching an animal or animal waste
  • After handling pet food or pet treats
  • After touching garbage”

The CDC recommends warm water and soap as the primary way to clean hands.  If there is no clean water available, it suggests that you use soap and whatever available water there is.  If soap and water aren’t available, the CDC suggests that you use an alcohol based hand sanitizer that uses at least 60% alcohol.

So why do some people choose not to wash their hands after using the restroom?

The answer is perceived susceptibility, a person’s belief about his/her “risk of contracting a health condition”. 

If a person believes that there is a low risk of getting an illness by abstaining from washing his/her hands after using the restroom, they will not wash their hands. Contrarily, if a person thinks there is a high risk of getting an illness by not washing his/her hands, hands will be washed.

A lot of things go into developing one’s perceived susceptibility. The Health Belief model states that a person must take into account perceived severity, perceived benefits, and perceived barriers in order to form a perceived susceptibility.

For example, a person walks in to a restroom and relieves himself/herself. 

This person will think of the negative consequences of not washing hands (perceived severity).

This same person will think of the positive consequences of washing hands (perceived benefits).

And, this person will think about the potential barriers to washing hands (availability of water and soap, time).


Personal experiences, cultural beliefs, quality of education can effect one’s perceived severity, perceived benefits, and perceived barriers. 

Here are some of the most common reasons why I hear that people choose not to wash hands after relieving themselves:

I don’t have enough time:

The CDC suggest only 20 seconds of your time to wash your hands.  If you are in that much of a hurry that you don’t have 20 seconds, maybe you need to work on your time management skills. You will be spending even more time (a couple of days off work/school) trying to recuperate after getting sick because you did not wash your hands. Singing the birthday song instead of counting to 20 might make time seem like its going by faster.

I just went #1/I just urinated:

Whether you urinate or have a bowel movement, you still come in contact with germs. Urine and excrement are both a result of your body getting rid of waste or things that could be harmful to your body. Toilet tissue may be a barrier between you and your body, but bacteria and viruses are much smaller than the eye can see. These harmful things can pass through the toilet tissue and end up on your hand.

I have hand sanitizer:

Hand sanitizer is recommended by the CDC only if warm water and soap aren’t available.  If there is a sink and soap in the restroom, it would be wise to use them.

I want to use less water and  help save the environment:

You can help save the environment by preventing the spread of harmful diseases. Chances are, you use more water while bathing or cooking than you do while washing your hands.

According to several hand-washing studies, hand-washing reduced “the amount of people with diarrhea by 31%, reduced diarrheal illness in people with weakened immune systems by 58%, and respiratory/cold-like illnesses by 21%”.

So, please remember to wash your hands after you use the restroom. Feel free to pass on this information to everyone you know so that we can stop spreading illnesses that can easily be prevented.

If you personally know someone that does not wash hands after using the restroom, feel free to send them a hand-washing e-card sponsored by the CDC. 





SaluBRIous Hair: The Honey Experiment Part 1

So earlier this week I blogged about my visit to the farmer’s market and the raw honey I picked up. Well last night I successfully tried using raw honey on my hair as a conditioner. 

I looked up several recipes for a deep conditioning mask containing raw honey.  I decided to use raw honey, olive oil, and some of the conditioner that I normally condition/co-wash with.


Three tablespoons honey

1/4 cup olive oil

Three tablespoons regular rinse out conditioner (Cantu)

All of the ingredients should measure about 1/2 a cup


1) I placed all of these ingredients into a small container and mixed them with a spoon. I the washed my hair my my regular shampoo towel dried it.   

2) I then placed the honey deep conditioning mask all over my hair.  I make sure all my hair is hydrated while massaging the mixture into my scalp and on the hair shaft.

3) Placed a plastic cap on my head for 15 mins. You’re really supposed to do it for 30 mins but I’m really impatient 🙂

After the 15 min period has passed. I washed all of the conditioning mask out of my hair. 


The homemade hair conditioning mask left my hair feeling really soft, moisturized, and shiny!  It easily de-tangled my hair. Whenever my hair likes something I put on it, it starts to regain its natural curl pattern (as if it is wet). My hair definitely liked it!  It made my hair a lot easier to manage when I proceeded to do twists for a twist out. 

I would definitely use this mask again. I will probably use it once a month.  Feel free to use your own recipe and let me know how your trial goes.

Stay tuned for the honey experiment part 2.  This will describe whether or not raw honey gives me saluBRIous skin.

This is NOT a salad!


This is not a salad! Last night I was trying to have a saluBRIous Valentine’s Day dinner with my husband so I ordered a salad with spinach and lamb. What I got was a heaping pile of lamb with some spinach at the bottom ( I had to dig and dig to find the spinach.). The plate was about a foot in diameter but every inch of it was covered.

So what does a salubrious person do when this happens?
1) When the plate arrives at your table, ask the waiter to box what you don’t think you will be able to eat. This leaves a smaller portion on your plate so that you’re less likely to gobble all of this down. I did this and I still don’t think I’ll be able to finish it all. I was actually so turned off by the heaping pile of lamb that I’m probably going to throw it out. Yes I spent money on it, but its not worth being miserably full or gaining the extra weight. If you’re against throwing it out, give the boxed portion to a friend ( this is sanitary because you box it before you touch it), loved one, or a homeless person in need of a meal.

2) To prevent this from happening again, ask the waiter/waitress what the actual size of the plate is the next time you are at a restaurant. Pictures in menus can help with this, but the menu last night didn’t have any pictures. Perhaps, they have a side salad size of what you would like to eat.

The Point Is:
Just because its a salad doesn’t mean it’s healthy for you! Many restaurant salads are covered in additional calorie-packed toppings that bury the nutritional properties of salad greens. Serving sizes vary, so ask what sizes are available in order get a healthy portion.

I’ve definitely learned my lesson!

Valentine’s Day: The end of “Over-indulgent Holiday Season”

The season of over-indulgence starts on Halloween. Kids get dressed up and try to get as much candy as possible ( why do we start teaching over-indulgence at such a young age?). For young adults, Halloween is not much different. You still wear costumes (sometimes risqué costumes) and eat candy that reminds you of Halloweens in the past. But something else is associated with Halloween. The cool air brings the need for heavy comfort food (weight gain) and warmer,thicker clothing (a way to hide weight gain).

October rolls into November when we start to think about Thanksgiving. We dream of Nana’s moist and delicious “sock it to me” cake (Lawd, Jesus! Is it possible to lust after cake?) and the big, fat steroid-pumped turkey we’ll eat on Thanksgiving day.

Thanksgiving day we have already forgotten about Thanksgiving and think about Christmas. For some this means getting presents (forget that we celebrate Christmas to remember the greatest gift God gave to us, Christ.), time off from work, and time spent with family. Family time often means lots of food will be made, lots of goooood food. You know, the fried, greasy, too-much-too-eat-but-you-have-to-because-its-so-good kinda food. You have to eat all you can because at the beginning of the next year you have to stop. You have New Year’s resolutions (which should be one month resolutions because you probably won’t stick to it that long).

Then comes Mardi Gras, which literally means FAT TUESDAY! Eat all you can because you can’t once Lent starts.

And finally Valentine’s day comes. You get lots of candy from your sweetheart. How sweet? I have to eat this because he/she spent a lot of money on them!

AND THEN IT’S OVER! No more nationally recognized reasons to over-indulge. Now it should be easier to eat salubriously and work out, right? WRONG! If the holidays give you a reason to over-indulge, you’ll find reasons to over-indulge all year long.


Valentine’s day is easy for me because my husband doesn’t really like candy. I can’t possibly eat Valentine’s day candy by myself. Since we’re both trying to do better this year, we’ll opt for salubrious options.

Here are some ways to “salubrify” (not sure if that’s actually a word) your Valentine’s day:
1) Chris and I love to take walks together. Why not walk a mile around your favorite park? If your sweetheart truly loves you he/she won’t care what you look like (even if you’re sweating, huffing/puffing, in workout clothes). Reward yourself with a healthy picnic afterwards.

2)We love a good laugh. Laughing burns calories so you will not only have a salubrious soul, you will be working toward salubrious abs as well. Go to a theater to see/rent a good comedy movie. Eat before arriving at the theater so you’ll be less likely to eat the GIGANTIC bowl of popcorn ( would you eat this much anywhere else?) and candies (which are a rip-off).

3) Make dinner together. Prepare a health-conscious menu so that you’re not tempted to pick up something unhealthy at the grocery store. You can buy cheap taper candles and candle holders at the dollar store to make it a dinner by candlelight. How romantic!

4) If you are vain and want everyone and their momma at work to know that you have a sweetheart, have him or her send you an edible arrangement instead of candy and flowers. It’s delicious(so good) and is a great alternative for any special occasion.

Turning a new leaf now will make it easier for you to resist the urge to over-indulge throughout the year. Practice makes perfect. Before you know it, you’ll be a pro at resisting over-indulgence during over-indulgent holiday season.

Small daily changes lead to lifestyle changes. If your sweetheart loves you enough, they’ll want to spend a salubrious lifetime with you. He or she will be willing to make those small changes to ensure a joyful and salubrious lifetime together.

Hope you all enjoyed this. Comment below to share how your first “salubrious Valentine’s day” went.

Bedtime Word for a SaluBRIous spirit: Luke 4:18-19

The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me, because He has annointed Me to preach the gospel to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set at liberty those who are oppressed; to proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord.”

Goodnight all! Go to sleep knowing that there is a higher power looking out for you!

Farmer’s Market Tuesday! Organic Honey


Today was such a nice day in my small hometown of Salisbury. Winter is pretty, but I love when the Lord sends days like these to remind us that spring is coming. I love taking long drives (if gas money permits) in the country on nice days.  Today I drove to the Camden Ave Farmer’s Market that is held at the Asbury United Methodist Church. 

While we lived in Charlotte, I anxiously awaited  until the date in spring when all the farmer’s markets opened up.  I loved buying fresh watermelons, strawberries and string beans. The Camden Ave market in Salisbury is open YEAR ‘ROUND!!!  Today, I took a look around to see if there is anything I’d be willing to buy.  I didn’t think they’d have much since a lot of things are out of season.  But they had a few good things: leeks, lettuce, greens, herbal tea leaves, fresh eggs, fresh salmon, and chocolate milk.  I decided to pick up honey. 

I bought organic honey this past spring in Charlotte because I heard that a teaspoon of honey a day can help with seasonal allergies  I was told that local bees pollinate and eating their honey regularly can help you build an immunity to local pollen. But an article in the NY Times refutes this.  It argues that seasonal allergies happen because of “wildborne pollens and not by pollens spread by insects”. Therefore it is unlikely to create an immunity with locally grown honey. 

The price at the market today was REALLY expensive, at $14 for a pound and a half of raw honey. But I had to remind myself that I will be able to get millions of uses out of this one jar.  Raw honey is valued because of its antioxidants, vitamins, and healing properties.  

Raw honey has many health benefits. 

  1. According to raw honey can “stabilize blood pressure, balance sugar levels, relieve pain, calm nerves, and has been used to treat ulcers”
  2. suggests arecipe containing honey that can help hair growth and conditioning.
  3. also states that raw honey can help moisturize skin, be used as a natural sunscreen ( please use additional “real” sunscreen with appropriate SPF as well), and can help prevent infections in wounds (please consult your doctor for additional help to prevent infections in wounds).

I’m going to try to use honey with each of its properties and blog about how they worked.

I have eczema, so I’m eager to see how honey helps dry skin (especially during winter).  I recently became natural, so I’d like to see how honey will condition my hair.  

Keep checking back on SaluBRIously Me to find out how the Honey Experiment goes! If you have any more suggestions on salubrious ways to use honey, feel free to contact me and I’ll place them on this page.

Love y’all!

Bri ❤